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Extreme Feminism: Destroying Society, One Family at a Time.

December 9, 2012

There is no greater calling for a woman than that of motherhood. The work is hard and the hours are long, but the rewards are unparalleled. Being a good mother requires a strength of character and will that not all possess. I doubt that there is a single language in the world where a form of swearing that involves insulting one’s mother does not exist, which shows how much we value our mothers.

At this sociopolitical point in our society, it is almost impossible to discuss the issue of motherhood in depth without also bringing up the issues of gender roles, and the traditional role of women as housewives and homemakers. Rearing children and building a home are legitimately hard professions, and any woman who is able to fulfill these responsibilities is definitely worthy of respect. However, in recent decades, the role of a homemaker has come under fire.

“[The] housewife is a nobody, and [housework] is a dead-end job. It may actually have a deteriorating effect on her mind…rendering her incapable of prolonged concentration on any single task. [She] comes to seem dumb as well as dull. [B]eing a housewife makes women sick.”

“[Housewives] are dependent creatures who are still children…parasites.”

“[As long as the woman] is the primary caretaker of childhood, she is prevented from being a free human being.”

What kind of sexist, misogynist pig would call women who belong to the most honorable profession in history? Why, feminists, of course! The three quotes above are from feminists Jessie Bernard, Gloria Steinem, and Kate Millett, respectively. As a man, I see my being a father as the single most all-encompassing aspect of my gender identity. Which is why I find it so very ironic that motherhood, the crowning jewel of womanhood, receives such disrespect from those who are supposedly advocates for women.

Feminists will argue that feminism is not anti-housewife, that women are free to choose whatever they want. However, anyone who has studied the movement from its roots will know that many of the most influential women involved in the movement have been anti-homemaker. This view of the housewife as a woman “reduced to servitude” was repeated over and over again in the arguments of many of the feminists who are now worshiped as patron saints of the feminist movement, like the three I mentioned above.

Other feminists will argue that feminism is not anti-motherhood, simply against being a housewife. But you cannot attack the role of homemaker without attacking motherhood. A homemaker is basically a woman who has decided to channel most, or all, of her time and effort into the task of raising children, and creating an environment suitable for that task. An affront to the homemaker is an affront to mothers. Many feminist models include a perspective of the homemaker role as an institution designed to keep women down, to keep them away from supposedly “higher” pursuits.

Such a horribly warped view. How ignorant of any woman to look down on another woman this way. How can you tell a woman, whose role as a mother and homemaker has brought so much joy into her life, that you are sorry that she is trapped in a prison? To all “successful” women who look down on housewives, shame on you! They do not need your pity either.

In my experience, the women who earn my respect are not necessarily the women who “can do a man’s job,” but rather the women who are can do a woman’s job. In other words, women who are good at being women. I have seen so many women try so hard to keep up with men at things men do, yet at the same time neglect and fail miserably at their primary responsibilities to their children. If a woman neglects her children, she fails as a woman. A man who fails as a man fails as a person. A woman who fails as a woman also fails as a person.

My wife is a woman of many talents, and there are many fields where she could excel, if she only put her mind to it. But she has decided to devote her time and energy to our home, and to our son. My mother, one of the smartest women I know, dedicated decades of her life to us, her children, to make sure we received the guidance we needed as children to become good, moral, and well-adjusted adults. My wife, and my mother. Two great women, both homemakers, and there are no two women in the entire world that I respect more than I respect them.

I am not saying that women should stay at home and not consider careers. There is nothing wrong with a woman pursuing her passion and working full-time, as long as she does not neglect her children. There is nothing wrong with a woman choosing to not be a housewife. What is wrong is the notion that women who are housewives are oppressed, less intelligent, less capable, or of a lower caliber than women who are not. Being a housewife is a privilege. I as a husband and father, work hard, to sustain my family’s finances so my wife doesn’t have to get a job to supplement my income. Because of this, she can focus on what she loves: raising our son and creating a home.

Radical feminism’s affront to motherhood is also an attack on the source of motherhood’s significance: the importance of humanity itself. To trivialize motherhood is to trivialize children. And who are we all but the sons and daughters of our mothers? Another feminist quote:

“A parasite sucking out the living strength of another organism…the [housewife’s] labor does not even tend toward the creation of anything durable…. [W]oman’s work within the home [is] not directly useful to society, produces nothing. [The housewife] is subordinate, secondary, parasitic. It is for their common welfare that the situation must be altered by prohibiting marriage as a ‘career’ for woman.”Simone de Beauvoir, The Second Sex, 1949.

To call the raising of a child “not tending toward the creation of anything durable” implies the development and growth of a human being are trivial matters. To call work within the home, the abode of the family, society’s most basic unit, useless, that just defies reason. And to look down on being a homemaker, a mother, and a wife?

“Mother is God in the eyes of a child.”
-Rose (Silent Hill

Let’s see any job trump that.


From → Feminism, Love

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